Sorry if this is turning into a rant page.. bear with daddy for this few days alright..
basically daddy and mummy had more or less decided to speak to the auntie and ask her to leave.. but somehow, daddy and mummy just didn't do it and we will also mindful that an extra pair of hands at home was important..
daddy was more firm towards the auntie today, one incident that daddy was most aggressive was when the auntie force-feed denson when denson was crying.. daddy even saw the auntie shaking her legs resulting in denson being held with a jerking motion while the milk bottle was stuffed in denson's mouth while he was wailing..
daddy couldn't take it and snatch denson away from the auntie.. the express breastmilk was far to warm for denson to consume and thus he cried and the auntie instead that the milk was not too warm and daddy told the auntie off..
mummy was commenting also on how the auntie toned down abit after daddy showed her some colours..
now i guess daddy needs to continue playing the role of the baddie so that denson can get the best treatment from the auntie..
we are putting up with her for abit longer and let's see what happens as we go along..
One thing's for sure, daddy and mummy was always act in the best interest of denson, parental instincts in action, watch out baddies!
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Friday, August 14, 2009
Dad's rants
Daddy is going to rant about the confinement lady..
Let's start with the good things.. she knows what's she's doing, isn't afraid to insist on what she feels is right, take controls of things and seriously has helped to improve the kitchen area and its cleanliness since the day she arrived... she's quite skillful with denson and is able to provide her inputs on matters apart from denson's welfare, commenting on mummy's confinement schedule, bathing schedule etc..
now the rants..
knowing what she is doing also meant that there seem to be little or no room for any negotiation.. no latch on for baby.. don't talk to him at night after certain hours, don't carry denson too much so that he doesn't get too used to immediate comfort.. so much more..
i guess at the end of the day she met well.. but what irritates daddy sometimes is how she makes it seem that it is daddy's fault that denson is crying instead of sleeping soundly.. denson cries, daddy and mummy try and comfort him, after awhile, he doesn't show any sign of settling down.. daddy suspects diaper change is due so picked denson up from the playpen onto the diaper changing mat to do a quick check.. auntie comes in and speak in such a way that daddy shouldn't have picked denson up and that denson is crying because he is trying to get some sleep..
so it's daddy's fault now uh?
mummy finished her longan drink tonight and auntie told mummy that she will brew for her again tomorrow.. so mummy got no longan drink when she wakes up twice at night?
Daddy is brewing longan drink for mummy but auntie was like so shocked to see the pot boiling.. if she cannot prepare enough for mummy, daddy will do it.. she still have the cheek to tell daddy that she has already told mummy that no more for tonight..
Daddy is keeping in all in and remaining cordial
Daddy (and mummy) is putting up with auntie for denson's sake.. daddy isn't at home during weekdays so daddy is well aware how much of a help the auntie is in taking care of denson, cooking for mummy etc..
Another 2 weeks plus before she goes.. on one hand, we can finally do things our way, using our parental instincts and knowledge from the books and antenatal class to good use.. on the other hand.. mummy will have to bear the full responsbility of looking after denson with little or no help and food quality is going to drop too..
sometimes daddy hope he can afford 2 months of no-pay to be with mummy and denson through this 2 months, but daddy needs to work to bring home the moolah
Be good denson
Let's start with the good things.. she knows what's she's doing, isn't afraid to insist on what she feels is right, take controls of things and seriously has helped to improve the kitchen area and its cleanliness since the day she arrived... she's quite skillful with denson and is able to provide her inputs on matters apart from denson's welfare, commenting on mummy's confinement schedule, bathing schedule etc..
now the rants..
knowing what she is doing also meant that there seem to be little or no room for any negotiation.. no latch on for baby.. don't talk to him at night after certain hours, don't carry denson too much so that he doesn't get too used to immediate comfort.. so much more..
i guess at the end of the day she met well.. but what irritates daddy sometimes is how she makes it seem that it is daddy's fault that denson is crying instead of sleeping soundly.. denson cries, daddy and mummy try and comfort him, after awhile, he doesn't show any sign of settling down.. daddy suspects diaper change is due so picked denson up from the playpen onto the diaper changing mat to do a quick check.. auntie comes in and speak in such a way that daddy shouldn't have picked denson up and that denson is crying because he is trying to get some sleep..
so it's daddy's fault now uh?
mummy finished her longan drink tonight and auntie told mummy that she will brew for her again tomorrow.. so mummy got no longan drink when she wakes up twice at night?
Daddy is brewing longan drink for mummy but auntie was like so shocked to see the pot boiling.. if she cannot prepare enough for mummy, daddy will do it.. she still have the cheek to tell daddy that she has already told mummy that no more for tonight..
Daddy is keeping in all in and remaining cordial
Daddy (and mummy) is putting up with auntie for denson's sake.. daddy isn't at home during weekdays so daddy is well aware how much of a help the auntie is in taking care of denson, cooking for mummy etc..
Another 2 weeks plus before she goes.. on one hand, we can finally do things our way, using our parental instincts and knowledge from the books and antenatal class to good use.. on the other hand.. mummy will have to bear the full responsbility of looking after denson with little or no help and food quality is going to drop too..
sometimes daddy hope he can afford 2 months of no-pay to be with mummy and denson through this 2 months, but daddy needs to work to bring home the moolah
Be good denson
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Daddy's Experience
Daddy hasn't blogged much, mummy has been doing most of the updates..
let daddy trace back to the hours before denson was born then:
2350 - Gynae did a check on mummy and it confirmed what daddy thought.. c-section was necessary.. there was some quick talk about going for epidural c-section so that mummy will know what's going on and hopefully daddy can be inside the operating theatre (OT) as well.. nurses came in and began preparing mummy for the procedure.. daddy was rushed to pick up the bags and get ready to move off..
2355 - daddy felt that the atmosphere was being made tense.. yes, its was considererd an emergency c-section but it was more like urgent than actually emergency.. but the nurses just made the whole situation seem so hectic.. as daddy followed mummy out of the Operating Theatre, Gynae was nowhere to be seen, just 2 nurses escorting mummy on the OT bed and another directing daddy to wait outside the WARD. WARD?! daddy wanted to be with there and mummy.. mummy was whisked off into the lift and daddy didn't even have a chance to say anything to mummy!
0000 - daddy told nurse that daddy wanted to be inside the OT but nurse informed that Dr gave no instructions, daddy had to asked nurse to help daddy ask Dr if daddy could get in.. daddy really wanted to be there to see denson's first moments and more importantly, to provide suppport for mummy after all the things that mummy had to go through before we head to the OT.. but the nurse just told daddy.. "i will ask doctor, if ok, i will come out and bring you in, if not, the next time you see me is when i bring your baby out liao".. daddy was left alone at the lift lobby just outside the Operating area.. no clue where he was, no clue where mummy and baby is doing, no clue if daddy will be able to get it.. all sort of thoughts ran through daddy's mind.. worrying about mummy, worrying about denson..
0015 - still no word, still no sight.. daddy getting edgy.. very worried, abit angry at how all this went and how he was not around mummy, letting mummy go through the c-section alone.. is mummy ok? is denson ok? how long will this take?
0025 - daddy quite certain that daddy wouldn't get to go in.. every sound and every moment in the quite lift lobby area alerted daddy.. daddy stood outside the door area which led to another 3 doors and 1 corridor.. 1 of the door stated Operating Theatres.. daddy didn't even know which one.. silence accompanies daddy.. only the constant click of the analog clock kept daddy aware of each passing second...
0035 - still no word.. daddy gets more worried by the minute.. why is this taking so long? will daddy get to hear denson cry from the outside? what happens if daddy goes pass beyond the line and ventures into restricted zone? is the security camera on top of the entrance working? will someone stop daddy? daddy walks away from the door entrance and sits down for a rest, tired from the wait and anxiety..
0035-0045 Daddy was alerted by a sound and rushed to the door entrance.. the nurse that last spoke to daddy finally appeared after so long, daddy had no sense of time except to ask the nurse if both mother and son are alright.. daddy was relieved when he say denson and was informed by nurse that denson was fine.. a quick check by daddy on denson and we quickly proceed down to the maternity ward
0048 - Daddy is down with nurse at the maternity ward, denson is put on the weighin scale and records 2.59kg.. daddy and nurse check through denson's fingers and genitals.. denson is wrapped up and placed under the warmer.. nurse informs daddy of denson's birth time and that mummy underwent GA
0110 - Daddy informed that mummy will be kept under observation before sending her down.. daddy can place the bags in the ward but must come out immediately since there's another lady in the ward.. daddy and mummy wanted single-bedded ward but there weren't any left when denson was born.. had to make do with 2-bedded ward..
0120 - Daddy spoke with neighbouring lady to apologies for the inconvenience and that daddy is waiting for mummy to be back from OT.. daddy went outside to sit at the couch in the corridor to wait for mummy to come down..
Not sure what time - Daddy was very tired yet very worried about mummy.. nurses in nursery informed daddy that he cannot keep going into the nursery at such late hour.. daddy saw mummy coming out from the lift while standing outside nursery.. nurses settled mummy down
Ard 0200 - Daddy tried talking to mummy but mummy was groggy... daddy felt so worried and sad to see mummy was groggy but was also relieved that mummy is fine now.. daddy tried to speak to mummy to check with her if she can hear him.. mummy could only nod and shake head to answer.. daddy know that it will take some time before mummy gets more awake..
0230-0300 - Daddy took his supper and breakfast of milo and milo outside the delivery suite and say hi to the nurses.. daddy headed back to the maternity ward and made another attempt to sneak into the nursery to take another look at denson.. nurses were uneasy but let daddy have his way..
0300-0320 - Daddy spoke to mummy and mummy could finally answer.. daddy showed mummy some pictures of denson on the camera and assured mummy that denson is okie.. daddy was relieved that mummy could open her eyes and speak coherently.. daddy told mum to rest and that he will be back in the early morning as he was not allowed to stay.. nurses had reminded daddy at least 4 times that he cannot stay over by now..
0335 - Daddy took one last look at denson (again irritating the nurses) before leaving.. denson took cab to grandma's workplace to update her on what happened and show her denson's pictures..
0350 - Daddy headed home for a quick shower and nap after being at the hospital for some 27hours..
0700 - Daddy is back at the hospital and saying hi to the same nurses that he saw some 4hours ago.. mummy is resting well and denson already looks slightly different from the earlier pictures..
The rest, they say, is history..
let daddy trace back to the hours before denson was born then:
2350 - Gynae did a check on mummy and it confirmed what daddy thought.. c-section was necessary.. there was some quick talk about going for epidural c-section so that mummy will know what's going on and hopefully daddy can be inside the operating theatre (OT) as well.. nurses came in and began preparing mummy for the procedure.. daddy was rushed to pick up the bags and get ready to move off..
2355 - daddy felt that the atmosphere was being made tense.. yes, its was considererd an emergency c-section but it was more like urgent than actually emergency.. but the nurses just made the whole situation seem so hectic.. as daddy followed mummy out of the Operating Theatre, Gynae was nowhere to be seen, just 2 nurses escorting mummy on the OT bed and another directing daddy to wait outside the WARD. WARD?! daddy wanted to be with there and mummy.. mummy was whisked off into the lift and daddy didn't even have a chance to say anything to mummy!
0000 - daddy told nurse that daddy wanted to be inside the OT but nurse informed that Dr gave no instructions, daddy had to asked nurse to help daddy ask Dr if daddy could get in.. daddy really wanted to be there to see denson's first moments and more importantly, to provide suppport for mummy after all the things that mummy had to go through before we head to the OT.. but the nurse just told daddy.. "i will ask doctor, if ok, i will come out and bring you in, if not, the next time you see me is when i bring your baby out liao".. daddy was left alone at the lift lobby just outside the Operating area.. no clue where he was, no clue where mummy and baby is doing, no clue if daddy will be able to get it.. all sort of thoughts ran through daddy's mind.. worrying about mummy, worrying about denson..
0015 - still no word, still no sight.. daddy getting edgy.. very worried, abit angry at how all this went and how he was not around mummy, letting mummy go through the c-section alone.. is mummy ok? is denson ok? how long will this take?
0025 - daddy quite certain that daddy wouldn't get to go in.. every sound and every moment in the quite lift lobby area alerted daddy.. daddy stood outside the door area which led to another 3 doors and 1 corridor.. 1 of the door stated Operating Theatres.. daddy didn't even know which one.. silence accompanies daddy.. only the constant click of the analog clock kept daddy aware of each passing second...
0035 - still no word.. daddy gets more worried by the minute.. why is this taking so long? will daddy get to hear denson cry from the outside? what happens if daddy goes pass beyond the line and ventures into restricted zone? is the security camera on top of the entrance working? will someone stop daddy? daddy walks away from the door entrance and sits down for a rest, tired from the wait and anxiety..
0035-0045 Daddy was alerted by a sound and rushed to the door entrance.. the nurse that last spoke to daddy finally appeared after so long, daddy had no sense of time except to ask the nurse if both mother and son are alright.. daddy was relieved when he say denson and was informed by nurse that denson was fine.. a quick check by daddy on denson and we quickly proceed down to the maternity ward
0048 - Daddy is down with nurse at the maternity ward, denson is put on the weighin scale and records 2.59kg.. daddy and nurse check through denson's fingers and genitals.. denson is wrapped up and placed under the warmer.. nurse informs daddy of denson's birth time and that mummy underwent GA
0110 - Daddy informed that mummy will be kept under observation before sending her down.. daddy can place the bags in the ward but must come out immediately since there's another lady in the ward.. daddy and mummy wanted single-bedded ward but there weren't any left when denson was born.. had to make do with 2-bedded ward..
0120 - Daddy spoke with neighbouring lady to apologies for the inconvenience and that daddy is waiting for mummy to be back from OT.. daddy went outside to sit at the couch in the corridor to wait for mummy to come down..
Not sure what time - Daddy was very tired yet very worried about mummy.. nurses in nursery informed daddy that he cannot keep going into the nursery at such late hour.. daddy saw mummy coming out from the lift while standing outside nursery.. nurses settled mummy down
Ard 0200 - Daddy tried talking to mummy but mummy was groggy... daddy felt so worried and sad to see mummy was groggy but was also relieved that mummy is fine now.. daddy tried to speak to mummy to check with her if she can hear him.. mummy could only nod and shake head to answer.. daddy know that it will take some time before mummy gets more awake..
0230-0300 - Daddy took his supper and breakfast of milo and milo outside the delivery suite and say hi to the nurses.. daddy headed back to the maternity ward and made another attempt to sneak into the nursery to take another look at denson.. nurses were uneasy but let daddy have his way..
0300-0320 - Daddy spoke to mummy and mummy could finally answer.. daddy showed mummy some pictures of denson on the camera and assured mummy that denson is okie.. daddy was relieved that mummy could open her eyes and speak coherently.. daddy told mum to rest and that he will be back in the early morning as he was not allowed to stay.. nurses had reminded daddy at least 4 times that he cannot stay over by now..
0335 - Daddy took one last look at denson (again irritating the nurses) before leaving.. denson took cab to grandma's workplace to update her on what happened and show her denson's pictures..
0350 - Daddy headed home for a quick shower and nap after being at the hospital for some 27hours..
0700 - Daddy is back at the hospital and saying hi to the same nurses that he saw some 4hours ago.. mummy is resting well and denson already looks slightly different from the earlier pictures..
The rest, they say, is history..
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Happy Birthday, 外婆！！
Baby Denson,
Today is 外婆 birthday.. We wun be able to visit 外婆 to wish her happy birthday this yr, but next yr we will b able to k.. by next yr, hopefully u can utter a few words n wish 外婆 Happy Birthday..
Just now mummy n confinement auntie brot u out for blood test again.. this time not so pain pain ler hor.. mummy got scold the auntie just now for puncturing baby's little foot so deep previously.. baby was still bleedin after auntie took out the bandage for u.. this time, the auntie is more gentle, baby oso didnt cry so much.. baby is a brave boi.. wail alittle then stop ler.. good boi..
On the way to the hospital, confinement auntie commented Baby Denson is growing to look like mummy more now.. the nose, the chin n the facial features.. height seems like daddy, tall tall.. she oso say baby got abit of ger ger look, baby's next sibling most prob a sister.. haha.. mummy wish that is true..
Auntie say she saw baby denson got a dimple on the left side.. haven seen the right side one.. yippee... Table for 3 all got dimples..
We are a family of dimples.. haha..
Today is 外婆 birthday.. We wun be able to visit 外婆 to wish her happy birthday this yr, but next yr we will b able to k.. by next yr, hopefully u can utter a few words n wish 外婆 Happy Birthday..
Just now mummy n confinement auntie brot u out for blood test again.. this time not so pain pain ler hor.. mummy got scold the auntie just now for puncturing baby's little foot so deep previously.. baby was still bleedin after auntie took out the bandage for u.. this time, the auntie is more gentle, baby oso didnt cry so much.. baby is a brave boi.. wail alittle then stop ler.. good boi..
On the way to the hospital, confinement auntie commented Baby Denson is growing to look like mummy more now.. the nose, the chin n the facial features.. height seems like daddy, tall tall.. she oso say baby got abit of ger ger look, baby's next sibling most prob a sister.. haha.. mummy wish that is true..
Auntie say she saw baby denson got a dimple on the left side.. haven seen the right side one.. yippee... Table for 3 all got dimples..
We are a family of dimples.. haha..
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Denson is offically registered!!
Denson is officially registered today..
erm after born for 10days..
partly mummy's fault cos mummy wanted grandma to take a look at the chinese name.. but grandma has been ill these few days, didnt manage to come n visit Denson, in the end only confirm the name over the phone w grandma..
Daddy n mummy was rushing in the morning to fill up all the forms, while daddy had to speed to ICA for the registration b4 12noon...
anyway Denson is officially registered w the ICA today..
Hereby announcing Denson's full name...
Ho Huan Yi Denson
何桓毅
erm after born for 10days..
partly mummy's fault cos mummy wanted grandma to take a look at the chinese name.. but grandma has been ill these few days, didnt manage to come n visit Denson, in the end only confirm the name over the phone w grandma..
Daddy n mummy was rushing in the morning to fill up all the forms, while daddy had to speed to ICA for the registration b4 12noon...
anyway Denson is officially registered w the ICA today..
Hereby announcing Denson's full name...
Ho Huan Yi Denson
何桓毅
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Denson is 1 week old today!!
Wonderful milestone as Denson is 1 week old today...
This whole week we have been learning w him.. his feeding volume n schedule, identifying diaper rash, heat rash, guage the jaundice level as well as slowly learning how to bathe n clean him..
very bad parents.. we haven tried our hands on bathing him.. well, guess the confinement lady feels tat it is her job to take care of the baby so we were pretty left out in all these processes... sometimes mummy dun even noe how much baby has drank his milk, wat time he drank.. worst of all, dun even noe if he has poo poo..
Mummy n daddy brot little Denson to Dr Terence for followup today.. poor Denson had to do a blood test for his jaundice level.. the nurse prick so deep into his skin that till afternoon he is still bleeding.. cry so badly, yet mummy n daddy duno wat's happening..
Dr Terence commenting Denson's doing well.. Jaundice level at border line.. so got to go for a second blood test next tue.. hopefully Denson's jaundice has come to a peak.. Denson has always been a sensible boi, trying his best to make sure that daddy n mummy nd not worry abt him too much..
Little Denson has put on weight too.. tat's the best relief for Daddy n Mummy!! Mummy tot she could have been starving him during the first 2 days at home.. he seems to slim down abit oso.. Great that Denson 很有志气, neber let Daddy n Mummy worry so much..
Mummy has since been pumping milk out for Denson's feeding.. so much of antenatal class, toking about directly latchin baby on to bond w baby, increase the milk supply as much as baby demand.. but Confinement Auntie is so against the idea cos she wun be able to guage baby's intake, insist that Mummy has to pump out.. Mummy n daddy spoke to Auntie few days ago, but she is against the idea.. tot in the end, we manage to convince her, but today wen we came back from hospital, Denson is hungry so mummy tot good time to latch him on for just 5-10mins...
Denson is doing so fine.. Auntie kip sayin mummy gonna hav a hard time latchin baby, might even end up fightin w him.. but it turn out otherwise... duno what's wrong w Auntie.. haiz...
hopefully mummy still in time to change Denson to latch on after Auntie leaves...
so much of Mummy's updates for the past week..
here's some pix of little Denson trying to suiting to home's life...
2nd day at home. Denson with his customised beansprout pillow done by Daddy n Mummy..
Sleeping soundly, giving a little contented smile...
sticking his tongue out.. hungry sign..
Daddy's fav.. cheeky little boi..
Peeking w 1 eye open...
Lying in his rocker, sleepy look...
Smiling happily whenever daddy n mummy calls his name..
Big eyes open wide.. look at how he clenched his fist..
Denson's signature move.. wriggle his right hand out of the swaddle and start grabbing things.. so tiny little hand compare to mummy's finger..
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Photos updates..
Uncle Yoke Meng, Auntie Jennifer, Auntie Winnie and Uncle Leong so anxious about seeing baby Denson..
Denson is so fortunate to have so many uncles n aunties doting on him... Even bot Denson small little tarts to celebrate Denson 1 day old..
Check out the happy aunties n uncles w Denson solo pix..
Uncle Yoke Meng who drove mummy n daddy to Mount Alvernia for admission.. The last uncle to see Denson in Mummy's tummy..
Auntie Jennifer, who is wife to be of Uncle Yoke Meng.. Auntie Jennifer dun dare to carry Denson so she sat down motionless to take pix..
Auntie Winnie, who is the most excited about Denson's arrival, was the 1st one to ask to carry Denson... Next time we move to Punggol, Auntie Winnie will be ard the neighbourhood too...
see how playful Uncle Yoke Meng is...
Uncle Leong, quiet quiet but also excited abt Denson's arrival.. haha.. Uncle Leong eyes same same as Denson.. oso same same as Daddy..
Though Uncle Alvin and Uncle Wei Qiang not here to visit Denson, but they were pretty looking forward to seein Denson.. Denson welcome u to his grandparents' place anytime to see him...
Auntie Deniece is down w flu n fever, so she didnt manage to make it to Mount Alvernia to see Denson too.. Auntie Deniece, pls take care, so that u can visit Denson soon...
Denson is so fortunate to have so many uncles n aunties doting on him... Even bot Denson small little tarts to celebrate Denson 1 day old..
Check out the happy aunties n uncles w Denson solo pix..
Uncle Yoke Meng who drove mummy n daddy to Mount Alvernia for admission.. The last uncle to see Denson in Mummy's tummy..
Auntie Jennifer, who is wife to be of Uncle Yoke Meng.. Auntie Jennifer dun dare to carry Denson so she sat down motionless to take pix..
Auntie Winnie, who is the most excited about Denson's arrival, was the 1st one to ask to carry Denson... Next time we move to Punggol, Auntie Winnie will be ard the neighbourhood too...
see how playful Uncle Yoke Meng is...
Uncle Leong, quiet quiet but also excited abt Denson's arrival.. haha.. Uncle Leong eyes same same as Denson.. oso same same as Daddy..
Though Uncle Alvin and Uncle Wei Qiang not here to visit Denson, but they were pretty looking forward to seein Denson.. Denson welcome u to his grandparents' place anytime to see him...
Auntie Deniece is down w flu n fever, so she didnt manage to make it to Mount Alvernia to see Denson too.. Auntie Deniece, pls take care, so that u can visit Denson soon...
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